When thinking about chivalrous acts, medieval moral codes and norms may come to mind. Some might think it is an archaic notion that has long since faded away. It actually makes me think of the Marines. If you have ever observed a Marine flag-folding ceremony, you will notice a few things. The general attitude towards the flag is one of reverence, tenderness, and respect. There is a clear desire to defend it from harm. You can tell it is more than fabric to them. It represents something of significant value.
In the movie Castaway, the main character Chuck Noland, played by Tom Hanks, is stuck on a deserted island. At one point, he is trying to start a fire by rubbing a stick on a wood plank near dried up grass. Despite his best effort, he can’t seem to get the fire started. It’s only when the plank splits a little the air is able to get through from the bottom to feed the fire. It wasn’t until he applied both heat and air that he was successful.
A friend of mine used to work with teenagers which is where he met a quiet freshman named Kevin. Kevin started dating Allie when they were just fourteen. Four years later, they were still dating when my friend asked Kevin, who had just graduated, to help him lead a cabin of guys for a week at summer camp. Every single day, while he was away at camp, Kevin wrote Allie a letter. His level of devotion and thoughtfulness was amazing. The fact that he exercised that level of maturity at age eighteen made it even more amazing. Kevin and Allie continued to date through college and beyond. Today they have been married for seven years and have three kids. Kevin continues to consistently show the characteristics of a man who loves his wife in the same way he did when they were high school sweethearts.