I don’t mind leftovers every once in a while. In fact, I like them sometimes. It just makes sense to have that leftover meatloaf instead of wasting it. Sometimes it’s just plain necessary because of financial or time constraints.
Well, sometimes leftovers are necessary in our relationships, too. If a child is sick for a few days, Dad may not get all the attention from Mom that he wants. If he just found out that he has to work the extra shift, she may have to understand that the romantic dinner will have to be rescheduled. You get the picture. The cares of this world—fatigue, sickness, finances, jobs—sometimes create roadblocks in relationships.
The Silent Treatment. I’m guessing that every spouse has given or gotten it at least once. It communicates a ton without saying a word, conveying things like anger, frustration, bitterness, manipulation, resignation, disappointment, and sorrow. But a long bout of the silent treatment can hurt a marriage and causes loneliness. The habitually silent spouse isolates the other, who becomes the lonely spouse. If you’re the lonely spouse, suffering in silence, there is hope. Here’s some things to understand and to do to encourage communication again
In speeches, articles, and blog posts through the years, I’ve been fond of sharing this tried-and-true adage: the family that prays together stays together. I believe that with all my heart. As author Tim Keller says, “Prayer is both conversation and encounter with God.” Susan and I like to have that encounter alone with God and we also enjoy having our prayer time together. We pray together just about every day.