Respected marriage expert John Gottman says that contempt is one of the clearest indicators that a relationship is not going to survive.
Contempt may seem like such a strong word that you dismiss the thought of it being a problem in your marriage, but take a moment to ask yourself whether you have ever shown disrespect or disdain to or for your spouse, or have looked down on them, or been scornful for some reason.
Marriage has been compared to everything from a marathon (you’re in it for the long run!) to a football game (it’s how you play as a team that counts!), but with the U.S. Open coming up next month, I’m reminded that it’s also like the game of golf.
With that in mind, here are six ways life on the fairways and the greens is similar to building a life together. Take some time to evaluate how you score as you consider the ways in which experiencing a rich marriage is like enjoying a good game of golf.
There were many things Susan and I did not know about marriage when made our vows to each 28 years ago, but we were certain about one thing—the absolute, central need for honesty.
Date nights are great, it’s helpful to know each other’s personality type, and good communication skills are important, but a rich, growing marriage is rooted and anchored in the safety and security that comes from knowing that your spouse’s words can be trusted. That they are true to what they say.