#013: How To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Life Derails You (Podcast)

How to Keep Your Marriage on Track When Life Derails You

My wife and I recently went to a beautiful wedding of a family friend. It reminded us of our wedding day—the excitement and expectations of what this new journey would bring.

Many of us have been there, right? We board the marriage train, lay out tracks which will take us toward our goals and dreams, and head off on the adventure. We are headed in one direction, enjoying the scenery, and then…boom! We get derailed…by sickness, job loss, or a miscarriage. Life and our expectations come to a complete halt. Listen to today’s episode as Susan and I discuss how to keep on track and respond when life derails you.

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Here are the three points we cover:

  1. Know That You Will Get Knocked off the Track.
  2. Learn How to Respond to Getting Knocked off the Track.
  3. How to Lay New Track Together.

Listener Questions:

  1. Libby asks, “I’m engaged and I was wondering how to balance the excitement while being realistic about expectations in my marriage?”
  2. Jeremy asks, “I’m newly married. The first year was such an exciting new adventure, but how do we keep the excitement of new territory when the routine of life seems to set in?”

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  • RY

    What about when you’re knocked off track by divorce? In my case and after 12 years, it’s something she doesn’t want to work on, she’s never been willing to see a counselor, won’t ackowledge she has a part in our problems or even give it a chance for the sake of the kids.

  • I’m sorry about your situation RY. You might want to see a counselor even if she won’t go.

  • izxdad

    Hey Ry, sorry to hear that, but you’re not alone. Seeing a counselor is a cop out answer when the pain is so real it’s in your face every time you look at your kids, who resemble your spouse, sorry Mark, no offense but we’ve heard that from every pastor, teacher, family member, even friends we try to lean on. My advise to you brother is to move on. I tried to rebuild my relationship with my kids mom for almost 10 years until finally I woke up and realized, God has a plan for me, and it’s being blocked by my ex and her defiance towards The Lord. Lead by example, pick up where you left off when you walked out the courtroom 12 years ago. Your kids are still watching you, so teach them to overcome. Even firemen sometimes say it’s best to let the house burn to the ground for the safety of those fighting it.

  • Mark

    I would like to make an observation. I am going through a marriage crisis myself where my wife had an emotional affair. We are working through it and rebuilding our marriage. It is very early days though. But, what I wanted to say is that I’ve gone on several Marriage Support Group websites and Facebook groups and I’m seeing a lot of marriages that seem to start having major issues at the 12 year mark. Is being married 12 years the new “7 year itch”?