It may sound simple, but thinking positively about your spouse could be the key to saving your marriage. It’s easy to let negative thoughts creep in and consume our mind. Take time to step back and marvel at the qualities you love in your spouse. Here’s what I mean…
Abraham Lincoln once said, “If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it, you surely will.” I would say the converse is true as well — if you look for the good in people expecting to find it, you surely will.
My wife, Susan and I have been married for 25 years. After being married for any length of time, it’s easier to focus on the negatives about our spouse, but that’s not something we want to do. So in my relationship, I tried to start focusing more on all the good things, the good qualities, that I found in my wife — my masterpiece. As I was consistently and constantly looking for those good things (and finding them), I would write them in a journal and put it on her pillow. They’re just words of encouragement, things she’s doing well, and wonderful qualities that I see in her. You can also put sticky notes on your mirror or on the dashboard of her car.
Whatever you do, look for those good qualities in your wife or husband expecting to find them. And when you do, make sure to communicate those qualities to your spouse.
What good qualities do you see in your spouse? In what creative ways have you communicated them? Share your comments with us!
