Today on the air, you heard me talk about when couples use the “D” word. “Divorce” that is. There are three things married couples need to know when they are considering getting a divorce.
You Can’t Take Your Words Back. As I mentioned today, you may have used the “D” word when you were fighting with your spouse—it slipped out and you couldn’t get those words back. You might have meant it the first time you said it. But that once turns into twice, then 3 times, and so on. Talking about divorce is detrimental to your marriage. I have seen how talking about divorce can really warp the way the couple’s children view relationships. They are left without any faith in relationships, and an attitude of “Well, if things get tough, I can always walk away.” Again, if divorce is even an option, you’re more likely to consider it. And, you’ll never feel secure in your marriage when you or your spouse are always threatening to walk away.
Stick It Out. I understand that occasionally divorce is the only solution. But on the other hand, I feel that people are so quick to quit these days. Some people do not even give “sticking it out” a chance. How many unhappy couples turn their marriages around? The truth is shocking! Here are some stats from a study: 86 percent of unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier, according to an analysis of the National Survey of Families and Households. Most say they’ve become very happy indeed. In fact, nearly three-fifths of those who said their marriage was unhappy in the late ’80s and who stay married, rated this same marriage as either “very happy” or “quite happy” when interviewed again in the late 90’s. If you want to fight for your marriage, your spouse and your family, then here are 8 Ways to Take a Stand for Your Marriage.
It’s beneficial to stay together. There are wonderful benefits to staying together and not splitting up your family. If you’re not sure about counseling, here are 4 ways to know when it’s time for marriage counseling. I’m positive that you’ll be much happier in the end if you work through your problems and stay together. A good place to start is to take the “D” word out of your vocabulary.
If you and your spouse were considering divorce and decided to stick it out, I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you did it.