5 Common Mistakes Men Make in Marriage

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Guys, mistakes are, by definition, unintentional.  More often than not, we aren’t thoughtless, we just don’t think like our wives want or need us to think.

Here are 5 common mistakes men make in marriage and what can be done about it.

1. Don’t think of the needs of their wife.  You schedule a date night with your wife.  Good job!  However, you wait until you are walking out of the door to say, “What do you feel like doing?” Don’t do it.  Plan ahead.  Make a reservation at your wife’s favorite restaurant.  Call the babysitter yourself.  You will get an “A” for effort!

2. Don’t listen.  Don’t assume you know what your wife is going to say.  Don’t tune her out because you have heard it all before.  Just listen with your ears and your eyes. In other words, give her your full attention.

3. Don’t understand their wife.  Like many men, you try to “fix” problems rather than understand what your wife is feeling.  Sometimes, she just wants you to feel what she feels without giving advice and without trying to fix it. When I’m not sure, I’ll often say to my wife, “Do you want my advice on this or do you just want me to listen?”

4. Don’t know their wife.  Do you remember getting to know your wife when you were dating?  When was the last time you just spent time talking with her, not to her.  Ask what her dreams are; where she would like to go on vacation; what good book she has read lately.

5. Don’t confide in their wife.  Your wife wants to be included in your entire world.  Confide in her—your dreams; your work; your life.  Your marriage bond will only be strengthened.

What common mistakes do you make in your marriage?  Please share them with me.

 

Related Resource:

5 Common Mistakes Women Make in Marriage

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  • jen

    How about speaking harshly to her? or not being supportive or encouraging her. Also not recognizing the gifts and talents GOD has given her. Sometimes its hard for a person to move forward with the calling on their life when they are not getting support or encouragement from their spouse. If you’re a lady that makes it much harder. Everything you say and even the way you say it affects her. You have the power to build your wife up or tear her down.