3 Things to Remember Before You Call It Quits in Marriage

3 things to remember before you call it quits in marriage_thumb

 

Over the years, there have been several questions that have surfaced on my blog more than any others.  Though spoken in different ways from different people at different times, these questions usually go something like this:

“What if I’m the only one putting any effort into my marriage?”

“What if my spouse never gives, but always takes?”

“I’m so lonely in my marriage. I want to call it quits. What should I do?”

For some, calling it quits means living in the same home, but giving up on any hope of a healthy marriage.  For others, calling it quits means separation or even divorce.  Before travelling down one of those roads, I’d like to remind you of 3 vital things.

1. Remember your vows.
“To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish ‘til death do us part.”  The day you and your spouse were married was the day you promised all these things as you stood before God, before your family, and before your friends.  Remember, this commitment you made was meant to be lifelong, and calling it quits would break that unconditional promise you once made with all your heart.

2. Remember what marriage is.
Marriage was never meant to be a contract to be broken, but a covenant to be cherished. Here is the clear difference between a covenant and a contract.

Covenant

Contract

Based on unconditional love between God, a husband, and a wife Based on conditional consideration between two people
Sacrificial Action (i.e. I’ll do it no matter what you do) Reciprocal Transaction (e.g. If you do this, then & only then I will do that)
Based on Mutual Commitment Based on Mutual Distrust
Seeks to Give Seeks to Get
For Life For Now

In a nutshell, a contract is all about what you get. A covenant is all about what you give.

3. Remember the purpose of marriage.
In 8 Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage, I shared that in my early years of marriage, I felt like an important part of Susan’s “duty” as my wife was to make me happy. I was a bit more focused on me than on us. I didn’t think so at the time, but now looking back I relied on Susan to lift me up when I was down, to help me upon command, and to meet my physical needs when called upon…just to name a few.

Did you ever think, “Once I get married, then I’ll finally be happy”?  It doesn’t take much experience in marriage to discover that this simply isn’t true.  The only person who can ever provide ultimate joy for you is God, not your spouse.  Perhaps realizing this truth means changing your expectations of your spouse. Ultimately, marriage is not about happiness, but about holiness. It’s a holy union between God, a husband, and a wife—a union established to glorify God.  

Are you thinking about calling it quits in your marriage? Have these things I’ve reminded you of helped? Please share your thoughts in the comments below. 

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • mels

    Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. Sometimes these are the little things that keep me moving forward and hopeful for a better future.
    I have since learned that what he was doing to my daughter and me are definitely considered abusive, both verbally and physically. I’m so relieved to be out of that situation. Thank you again for your kind words!

  • mels

    Well said! I thought I was marrying someone who was equally yoked with me. But I soon found out that it was all an act. I’m 37 and don’t know that I want to get married again. It’s so difficult to know if the person you’re marrying is really who they say they are.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Heartbroken x3 I am so sorry you going through this pain. If your husband truly wants to rebuild it is possible. There are some thoughts and actions outlined in this blog you may want to discuss with him. http://www.markmerrill.com/2010/08/19/rebuilding-trust-in-a-relationship/#more-1307

  • Jar of Clay

    Thank you for the article. I am a spirit-filled, born-again believer who is asking her husband for a divorce. Sometimes the vortex of pain outweighs the timing for the move of God. If God is the author, finisher, and perfecter of my faith, then He has to do the fixing. I yield. I have no power. I have prayed and waited for 10 years now. I’m depressed, fat from emotional eating, in physical pain (not from physical abuse), and sad for the example I’m demonstrating to our children. And, quite honestly, I don’t have God’s love toward my spouse. I am a poor and ineffective witness in my own household, church, and community. How did this ruby fall to such a wretched state?

    As background, I sought premarital counseling through my church. We had the blessing of our leadership. What are we telling the body of believers, and what are we asking in counseling? If we honestly look back at what we’ve done to prepare for marriage, a lot of times we can see the error of ourselves (human pride) that doomed the union from the start, let alone if there is imbalance (human imperfection) that follows a perceived equal yoke. There it is. We often have POOR MEASUREMENT for spiritual equality in the yoking. Premarital counseling should get to the heart of spiritual equalness rather than other types of compatibility.

    I have requested marital counseling, but he won’t do it. Even so, God can still work a miracle in our hearts and restore the marriage. But maybe this is a lesson I was meant to learn. Maybe I must release the pride of “being married” in order to love myself. God is still with me. He will still forgive me. And I will be about His business to care for our children and myself.

  • Nicole

    I have to chime in and agree with warrior. I recently divorced a narcissist, alcohoholic who got worse and more dangerous the more unconditional love and acceptance that I gave. It was dangerous in my home and I do not believe that God wants us to put ourselves in a place of harm. I do not believe that I deserve to be happy, but we should be safe in our home. My husband left 2 years ago and still created a lot of dangerous situations with his drinking and radical behavior surrounding those episodes. It is also important to remember that an alcoholic creates a very dangerous financial liability. If they drink and drive and kill someone a spouse and children could end up losing everything and be out on the street. I will always pray for my ex-husband including the miracle of God’s hand on his heart, but I am not going to subject myself and my children to the life he is living at this time which creates emotional and financial risk. I pray especially pray for all men I know who have lost their way in their responsibilities as fathers and husbands.

  • bitter&unhappy

    FlowerChildBoomer, I often wish I had your kind of understanding from others. Some people seem to think no matter what is wrong, it should be worked out. Or, as I was told in my first ever marriage counseling session a week ago, I will lose my soul if I don’t work things out with my husband. :(

  • helpless

    If we make it I will have been married 25 years in June.Our relationship like most has been a roller coaster with us both being totally different people and it feeling like I was the only one trying, About 5 years ago my husband got put on probation at work for flunking a drug test he had assured me time and again that he had quit and I believed him. Just this last September he lost his job for the same thing. I was devastated I really believed he had learned his lesson, On top of this he has no desire to work unless it is what will make him happy. While I have taken a job totally out of my comfort zone to try to make ends meet. How do I stay knowing I will never trust him or that he has no desire to take care of me or our family?

  • Summer

    Hopeful, you are truly an amazing woman. I am so inspired by your testimony – may God give back to you 100 fold the love you have shown this man (your husband).

    I am reminded that the abused often become abusers, and know that your love for this man is exactly what he needs. Who knows what he went through to mistreat you in this way, but I believe no one who loves themselves would treat their spouse that way… you are allowing love to win this war because scripture says love NEVER fails. It can melt the hardest heart. I will pray for you to stay strong. Thank you for being an incredible example of sacrificial love & a true godly woman!

  • Justin Wilson

    All this sounds like the gospel of bitterness. Where in the Bible did God ever say he put you here to be happy?

    This lie right here cause divorce and adultery. the one seeks to get happy by any means necessary idea will find themselves doing everything for selfish gain.

  • Denise Haller

    are you serious? It says it all over the Bible, That god created man that they may find joy. I have found joy in believing in our Heavenly Father and trusting in him. I know that he knows me personally, knows my needs, will help me carry my burdens. He didn’t say everything would be perfect, he said that we will be tried and tested, but he does tell us “I didn’t say it would be easy… I said it would be worth it” It is how we come out the other side that proves, and hones us to be better and stronger. Steel that is proved in the fire separates the impurities and makes it stronger. We must be proved in adversity to separate impurties (satan) and come out stronger on the other side.

  • R B Pierce, US Navy Chaplain

    Truth is, Mark — when you “give,” even when you feel you’re doing so “unfairly,” you always “get more” back. BUT: One cannot “give” with this “expectation”… and have it work. You hit the nail on the head: thanks.

  • Hoosier62

    So you are telling this guy what exactly? Is it you think it is his fault his wife cheated?

  • Eddie

    I am not a perfect person nor do I ever claim to be. I always tried to be a thoughtful husband and do the right thing. Things were fine before I got hurt at work and forced out after fifteen years of service. After that, things changed. Some was financial strain but my ex-wife changed after six years of marriage. She began to lie, steal money from our accounts and stopped paying the bills. All while I was trusting and loving as always and then she dropped the bomb and said she wanted a divorce. She became petty, childish and spiteful.
    I don’t know why and not knowing is what is so hard. I don’t know if I can trust again along with exposing myself to more pain ever again. I can’t be the only one like this.

  • jed

    That’s all well and good, but let me share a grim reality with you: if you have kids and divorce, it gets waaaay worse once your divorced. You see, you are still both bound to raise your children, so you will see your ex spouse all the time. School events, doctors appointments, ball games, etc. Think you don’t get along now? Wait until there’s no reason to keep peace (you have to live with one another and so you TRY to reduce conflict). Once your divorced, all bets are off and your ex will dig their heels in on issues you used to disagree about. You have a level of control when married, but when you divorce, you relinquish that control to a judge who doesn’t care about your disagreements and will roll their eyes at your petty disagreements. Don’t want your kid hanging around with a certain other kid? What if your ex disagrees, but you feel strongly? In marriage, you’ll likely come to a consensus. in divorce your ex can, and might, tell you to pound sand. Your choice: accept again and again you really have no say in the matter, or take a $5,000 gamble and go to court. Please, take my first hand advice, divorce doesn’t end anything, it’s just the beginning of a much more contentious relationship. Suck it up and work it out, or learn to bite your lip. (Obviously excludes abusive situations)

  • Elwood

    Getting married is an act of faith. Like that old joke, “Men marry a woman, hoping she’ll never change – and then she does. Women marry a man, hoping he’ll change – and then he doesn’t.” It is very possible that man and woman are equally yoked when they get married – they have both given their hearts to Jesus – and after getting married (possibly *long* after getting married), one spouse takes his/her heart back FROM Jesus and lives for self instead. That person could spiritualize it and say “God only wants me to be happy.” I personally know of several of these instances, and suspect that I’m in one of them now. It’s like part of the house has gone off the foundation. 1 Corinthians 7 gives this situation as an allowance for divorce.

    So, what’s worse: breaking covenant with your spouse, or living in a marriage that does not honor Christ? If one spouse is trusting God and the other isn’t, then the spouse who’s trusting God needs to seek the Lord about that. One solution does not fit all circumstances. But this where I’m at, and I don’t want bitterness to take root in my heart.

    Mel, now that you’re ending one chapter and starting another, the God of all wisdom will help you through this. And I’m praying that a sister in the Body will come along to walk through this with you, not with self-centered worldly wisdom nor with religious condemnation or rules, but with God’s higher thoughts and loving heart.

  • Neil

    So it seems like don’t get married. Just be holy with God.

  • IStayedMarriedTooLong

    Cut your losses. Move on. Immediately.

  • IStayedMarriedTooLong

    Dude, I went through the same deal and more over a 17-year marriage. She cheated on you for a reason, so don’t expect things to improve any time soon. I stayed in it for my kids too, but I stayed too long. EVERYONE would have been happier, and the family law industry a lot less richer, if I had been a little more practical about where things were headed a lot sooner-nowheresville. The sooner your kids see a happy dad the better. Sounds like that might start with being a responsible single dad…just sayin’

  • IStayedMarriedTooLong

    He sounds like a jerk. Get happy, move on. Immediately.

  • IStayedMarriedTooLong

    Bless you for trying, but WHY in the world would you stay in such a dysfunctional relationship? You may find out what you are doing will have lasting damage for you and prevent this dude from getting help or at least a badly needed reality check. Get happier, move on. There’s life out there.

  • IStayedMarriedTooLong

    Good for you. Doing the right thing is staring you in the face.

  • elisabeth

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    i want to use this golden opportunity to announce to the entire world, how happy and grateful i am today, shearing this testimony to the whole world. because of the full commitment with my ex after the casting of a spell by DR RAMAN that bring back my ex husband. it all happen after given birth to my first child, i found out that there was problem in my family because of the unusual behavior of my husband which lead to our break up, i tried all i could to bring him back, but all my effort was just a wast of time, the more i try the more things get worst, even when he hard the cry of my baby through phone call, all he could tell me was, *go to hail with the baby*, things went worst than i could Eva imagine in my life, all i was thinking about is how my child will feel when he found out that he grow up without a father, i was so worn out and confuse about life. the most painful thing was the fat that i love my husband so much to the extent that i could not concentrate in anything am doing. after five years of break up, i meet an old time friend, she was my course mate in the university, way back than, she ask me about my husband because she also attended my wedding ceremony, i was crying, then she notice that things went wrong, i told her every thing, she took me to this great DR called RAMAN,when we get there he told me not to worry that if i will let him handle the work that my husband will come back in 48hours, i thought it was a joke because have try three other spell caster nothing came out of it, so my friend told me to let him handle it, then i give him a chance, surprisingly the next 48hours i hard a knock on my door, then i opened, guess who i saw? i say the love of my live, he came with a powerful CAR, and some amount of money just to apologize to me, then i accepted. today we have three children and nothing will break us up again. if you need this DR RAMAN email him on ramansolutiontemple@gmail.com he is the best spell caster. thank you DR RAMAN, once again his email is ramansolutiontemple@gmail.com

  • mark bill

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  • http://www.e-wooster.com thedragonman

    I can really relate to this post, I am in a covenant and it is clear that my wife has been in a contract. We have been together 15 years and through all the ups and downs I have fought to be a good husband. Early on in our marriage my wife was diagnosed with a personality disorder caused by a chemical imbalance. When she took her medication she was a loving and thoughtful person, when she didn’t she was mean selfish and spiteful. I held true to my covenant for mental health is included in the terms “In Sickness and in Health” she did not. The medication made her gain weight and she was already upset at what God blessed her with. She disappeared with our 5yr old twins January 23rd and I do not know where they are. I have my ideas but no real proof. I pray that God keeps them safe.

  • JR

    Mels, I feel like I am not hearing both sides of the story. But it sounds like your man has checked out and does not want to be with you.

  • hbstg

    I am one of those people who truly believes in forever but that does mean that you cannot separate while taking steps like counseling. God can work miracles when given the change but you should not be grated like that by anyone in your life. If you bad a daughter in this situation what would u tell her to do? You are no less valuable.

  • army wife

    I encourage anyone who has ever been in love with their spouse and thinks they are not now to look deep at the other person and try to see their actions as symptoms of the bigger problem. After 25 years of a very strong and loving marriage my husband ended his 28 year career in the military with a tour in Afghanistan. After spending the year alone with my yellow ribbons tied and doing the best I could I found out that he began an on line affair that continued in person for almost a year after he got home. The betrayal was almost more that I could bear. The pain and mistrust nearly ended us. I was so wrapped up in my pain I couldn’t see what was happening inside him. He was so disillusioned by the war and then disgusted with himself that he just stopped caring about anything. Counseling did help provide an emotional tourniquet but it took two people willing to lay down their hurts and disappointments in the other to find our real strength together. Someone at that time told me “Peter was with Perfection and still betrayed him 3 times”, I kept that thought in my heart and in time found forgiveness. Don’t get me wrong, the pain still comes in like a wave and tries to drag me out to sea at times but I’m thankful for a husband willing to swim in after me and God’s strength to get us back to shore. Just think before you leave, what is your spouse dealing with, what does God have planned for you both.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Well said army wife. Thanks for sharing from your heart and your experience.

  • Taylor Borg

    My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won’t give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn’t going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OT ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)

  • Taylor Borg

    My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won’t give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn’t going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OT ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)..

  • Hansford ann

    My name is Handford Ann,i base in canada.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my ex-lover of my life back, who i sworn to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my ex back until i met a testimony share by Maria from USA on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought his ex lover back within 48hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Maria and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of dr.Trust.they get back their ex within 48 hours.i am so happy that my ex is back to me again,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Trust.if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face ask he did to me and others.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com call +2348156885231) what will i have done if not the great help of dr.trust. Thanks Handford Ann from canada.

  • Adams Bella

    My name is Adams Bella, i live and work in Oxfordshire, UK. My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr.Trust of Ultimate spell cast which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and also spell to get a good paid job so on. He is amazing, i also come across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Vera, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email.After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever.Dr.Trust you are a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on (Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com) or call him +2348156885231. he is the best caster that can help you with your problems.

  • Adams Bella

    My name is Adams Bella, i live and work in Oxfordshire, UK. My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr.Trust of Ultimate spell cast which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and also spell to get a good paid job so on. He is amazing, i also come across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Vera, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email.After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever.Dr.Trust you are a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on (Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com) or call him +2348156885231. he is the best caster that can help you with your.. problems.

  • annonymous

    After six years in marriage with my husband with 3 kids, he suddenly started going out with other women and coming home late, each time i confronted him it turns out to be a big fight and he always threatened to divorce me at times, my marriage was gradually heading to break up and i tried all i could to stop him from this attitude but all proved abortive, until i saw a post in the forum about a spell caster who helps people cast spell on marriage and relationship problems, At first i doubted it but decided to give it a try, After i contacted this Spell caster called Dr.ZABAZA, within 48 hours my husband came back apologizing for all he has done and promised never to do such again and today we are happily together again. Contact this Great spell caster for your marriage or relationship issues via this email; zabaza.logan@yahoo.com or call him +2348182620374

  • mels

    JR, yes you are correct… Looking back I can see that he had been “checked out” of the marriage for quite some time. He is not interested in reconciliation and it doesn’t appear that he ever will be. I’ve accepted his decision. I’m focusing on my relationship with the Lord so I can continue to grow closer to Him, and in the process, He’s healing me and making me whole.

  • mels

    Lol, based on your user name, I’m guessing you may have been in a similar situation as me?
    I have accepted his decision. I don’t stress too much over my wayward spouse anymore, and instead focus my energy on improving my relationship with God.

  • mels

    I don’t know how long ago this happened to you, but I went through a lot of the same emotions you shared. It’s been almost 5 months since I saw my spouse, but it was very emotionally painful for the first few months. And I feel better every day.
    It’s helped to have a mentor from my church that I meet with once a week to share how I’m feeling and what I’m learning, etc.
    I also spend a lot of time praying, reading the Bible, and have joined several online Bible studies over the past few months.

  • faithncourage

    I have been married 15 years. After 6 years my husband suggested a dominatrix lifestyle. I definitely opposed, and only gave it passing attention, but his fantasies were out of control. We spent two years in counseling. He expected me to become some type of CEO and lead everything. He still has these desires and last fall said he wanted me to date other men and has in the past said he wanted to watch me with other men. I obviously said no, and sent him off to counseling for his sexually masochistic desires. I told him if he attempts it again I’d leave. He still admits to having these desires, but for about six months has not made any attempts to act on them. The problem is I just don’t feel in love with him anymore despite his going to counseling. I’m making arrangements to see a separate counselor. There is obviously other issues involved. He makes no effort to be successful in business, and I always feel like I am towing the line. He is a generally good father and seems to be very dedicated to his family.

  • annonymous

    I want to testify to the general public on how my relationship was restored with love by the great power’s of Dr.Zabaza after 21 days of separation, my lover called me within few hours that i contacted Dr.Zabaza that he want us to come back and start a good relationship that will eventually lead to marriage, Now we are happily married with kids. And all my thanks goes to Dr Zabaza for his spiritual help. You can contact him on his email if you have similar problems, email: zabaza.logan@yahoo.com or you can also reach him directly on his cell phone number +2348182620374

  • jane smith

    i am hear to give testimony of how i got back my husband, we got married for more than 9 years and have gotten two kids. thing were going well with us and we are always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treat me and the kids. later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted Dr okojie for the return of my husband to me, they told me that my husband have been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then they told me that they have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, they caste the spell and after 1 week my husband called me and he told me that i should forgive him, he started to apologize on phone and said that he still live me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that he Dr okojie caste on him that make him comeback to me today,me and my family are now happy again today. thank you Dr okojie for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want you my friends who are passing through all this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact drokojiehealinghome@gmail.com. and you will see that your problem will be solved without any delay. he is specialized in solving of other problems including the following:
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  • flora

    My name is Floa Dee, and I base in UK…My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Ekuma, which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across a lot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Elizabeth,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Ekuma’s e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr Ekuma, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man… If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try ekumasolutiontemple@gmail.com anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here’s his contact: ekumasolutiontemple@gmail.com

  • Gloribel Stancy

    just want to share my experience and testimony here..my name is Louis from UK i was married for 6 years to my husband and all of a sudden,another woman came into the picture.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost?then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn’t know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned the kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster?so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn’t believe in all those things? then when he did the special prayers and spell, after two days, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn’t believe it.. any ways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man, his email address dr extremlovespell5@yahoo.com, or coll +2347061583960 his spells is for a better life.

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  • Cayla Mella

    I want to use this medium to tell the world about Dr Kasee who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg him several times to please forgive and accept me back because i knew i offend him but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because he always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell him but on one faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was worse than mine and yet Dr Kasee helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Dr Kasee for help via email (onimalovespell@gmail.com) and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe your tear out with my spell so luckily for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Dr Kasee can not do with is spell and just as promise myself i will keep testifying on the internet of how Dr Kasee helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Dr Kasee will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Dr Kasee today to help you email: onimalovespell@gmail.com