| In my blog post on October 5, I wrote about the 5 Things Men Must Know about Women. My wife, Susan, asked me last night if I actually do these things. After doing a self-evaluation, here are my thoughts on how I do on each of the 5 things… Also, on the right, check out my wife, Susan’s, evaluation of how I do in each of the 5 areas… | |
| Mark’s Self Evaluation | Susan’s Evaluation of Mark |
| 1. Women want to feel loved. I do this fairly well. I say, “I love you.” to Susan every night before we go to bed, even if we just had an argument. I sometimes hug and hold her when she’s upset. I definitely pursue her in our relationship. |
1. Women want to feel loved. I know you love me, but in times of conflict, your tendency is to tell me what I need to do rather than reassuring me that everything will be ok. |
| 2. Women want to feel understood. I don’t do this well. I often don’t understand how Susan feels, and I don’t stop for long enough to just ask her and listen. I’ll give myself a “D” in this department. |
2. Women want to feel understood. We definitely have a tough time with this. I speak in generalities and you speak details. We often misunderstand each other. |
| 3. Women want to feel emotionally secure. Susan knows that I’m always there for her, but sometimes, she does not always feel emotionally secure with me. That’s probably because I tend to have more of a critical spirit. I’m constantly struggling to be a better encourager. |
3. Women want to feel emotionally secure. Definitely feel secure. You are very loyal to me and focused on me. A+ |
| 4. Women want to feel listened to. I used to be really bad at this. Susan used to share something with me and I just charged in and told her how to fix it. I’m learning—over the years—how to identify with her and be a better listener. |
4. Women want to feel listened to. Like in your #1, you want to fix it by telling me what I should do. I just want to vent, talk, and be encouraged. |
| 5. Women want to feel beautiful. Susan absolutely knows that I find her beautiful! No need to comment further on this one! |
5. Women want to feel beautiful. You are naturally great at this and are blind to all my physical faults. A+ |
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