3 Ways to Make Your Married Arguments Productive

how to argue effectively with your spouse

Elie Wiesel wrote, “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” And divorce usually happens because one or both spouses became indifferent. They didn’t hate each other, but like all couples, they argued. And they didn’t resist the urge to see conflict as a sign of a terrible marriage. So they drifted into indifference. […]

3 Things Your Spouse Is Not

your wife is not

You’ve no doubt shopped for a card for your spouse and read something like, “You light up my world. You’re my everything. You are my every dream come true.” It sounds sweet and I understand the intentions. But your wife is not your everything. Your husband isn’t your every dream come true. Spouses don’t always […]

4 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Ever Speak

questions to ask yourself before you speak

Most of our communication involves talking. Said differently, while our nonverbal communication is important, what we actually say matters a great deal. I’ve found two things true: First, I need to watch my mouth, and second, If I don’t watch my mouth, there are consequences. I don’t think I’m alone here. Many people get this […]