Productivity is a buzzword in the workplace. Many of us use tools, resources, software, and apps that help us to be productive at work. But what about productivity in family relationships? Is there new software or an app that will make our family relationships flourish with just a click of a button or a touch of a screen?
We can’t rely on technology to have flourishing relationships. But just as we can use our gifts or strengths at work to be more productive, those same areas of giftedness can help us build productive relationships with family and friends
My wife, Susan, and I were talking about this recently and she identified three traits of mine that she has seen me use both in the office and at home to build relationships. Of course I have weaknesses and traits that are not good, but I’ll save those for another blog! The good ones are:
1. Perseverance. It’s my middle name. My dad taught me the value of perseverance…to never, never give up. We all face moments of frustration in our lives, in our marriages, and in our parenting. When I face those challenges, I’m able to tap into my persevering mind-set to push through the tough times. So what’s the point? When a child is sick, persevere through it by their side. When a spouse is unloving, persevere with love in return. When bills are high and funds are low, persevere by providing. Never give up.
2. Self-Discipline. I do what I need to do even when I don’t want to do it. Why? It’s my duty as a husband and father. When I don’t feel like doing the laundry, I do it anyway. When I don’t feel like helping the kids with homework, I do it anyway. When I don’t feel like encouraging Susan, I do it anyway.
3. Loyalty. I am fiercely loyal in relationships and will do anything to protect and provide for my family and friends. If my wife or children’s physical or emotional well-being is threatened, I will aggressively seek to conquer the threat. If they need help, I will be there. I will not allow anything to come between me and my family. Nothing can separate them from my love.
I am convinced that God has given each one of you special gifts and character traits. These gifts are built into your makeup to help you build productive relationships with your spouse, children, and friends. When it comes down to it, you are your biggest productivity tool. See what my wife Susan has to say about her productivity tools for relationships.
Take some time to reflect on your gifts and how you can use them at home. Feel free to share them below.