How well do you really know the people you see every day? The people sitting beside you, the people you laugh with, and the people you live with?
Recently, my friend Danny and I were talking when he suddenly stopped me and asked, “Mark, how are you wired?” I replied, “Well, I have to write down just about everything to make sure I do it. Let’s put it this way, if I need to encourage someone, I have to write it at the top of calendar.” Danny couldn’t believe it. “You are really that robotic?” he said. “I never knew that about you.”
He then suggested that I also share with our Family First staff how I think…how I’m wired. Once they understood this, working together would be so much easier. And as a leader, I felt that it was my responsibility to take the first step toward relating better to, and working with, my staff.
At our next Monday morning meeting, I explained to everyone the things I had shared with Danny as well as a few other things about how my mind operates to better help them understand the way I work. It was such a success that we decided we needed to let the rest of our staff take time to share the same information with everyone. Over the next few weeks, we came up with a list of questions that each of our team members took turns answering at each of our Monday morning meetings. It not only proved to be an invaluable way to learn about one another, but also a lot of fun! Armed with this new information, I am now able to love and lead our team more effectively.
Some of the questions we had everyone answer included:
- How are you wired?
- What are some words to describe your strengths and weaknesses?
- Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
- What is your best communication style?
Now that we’ve finished learning about one another in the office, I want to bring this same experience to my home.
Some questions to ask your family include:
- What is your favorite thing to do?
- How do you like to be encouraged?
- What hurts your feelings?
- I like to be shown affection by _______.
- I feel really good when _______.
These pointed questions will aid you in going deep beneath the surface with your coworkers and family. Getting to know somebody takes work, but it’s always worth it.
After you do this with your coworkers or family, share your feedback with me below. I’d love to hear how it went.