Check Your Motives before You Make Decisions for Your Kids


Every day, I am making decisions, directly or indirectly, relating to my kids.  To make the best decision possible for them, I need to check my motives first. In other words, I need to constantly ask myself, “Why am I making this decision?”  Here are a few ways you and I can check our motives as we make decisions for our kids.

Ask yourself if this decision is really best for your child long term or if it is a short-term fix that is convenient for you.

Consider whether this activity is something your child will enjoy or just something you’d like to do.

Evaluate whether making this decision will make you more or less available to your child.

Think through whether this decision will help build your relationship with your child’s mother or tear it down.

Consider how this decision will affect your other children. Ask yourself if you are showing favoritism.

What are some of the ways you have found success in making decisions for your kids? I’d love to hear your feedback.

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