You’ve heard the statistic…in America, roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce. If you have experienced divorce, you know that not only is it a time when you must allow your own heart to heal, but it’s also a time when you must help your kids recover from the pain.
One of the saddest repercussions of divorce is the way children are often adversely affected. So how are you helping your kids cope with divorce in a way that won’t lead to negative effects in their future? Author Tammy Daughtry shares some advice with us in her book, “Co-Parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce.”
- “Keep the kids in the same school if possible.
- Make every effort to allow them to continue in their extracurricular activities: band, dance, swimming, scouting, sports, and so on.
- Help them find someone to talk to: a guidance counselor at school, a children’s counselor, another trusted adult with whom your children are comfortable, a youth pastor, or a coach.
- Don’t overschedule your life. Allow time and space to relax and enjoy your children.
- If you do have to move, help the kids keep in touch with friends, either by arranging visits or weekly chats on Skype.
- Keep as many ‘familiar’ things in their environment (bedspreads, toys, etc.) as you can.”
As much as going through a divorce can seem like a time to be focused on yourself, I encourage you to remember to focus on your kids as well. You may be feeling lost regarding how to pick up the pieces in your life and move forward, but don’t feel lost when it comes to helping your kids handle the change. Let them grieve and be there to love them well.
If you have any other advice regarding parenting through a divorce, feel free to leave your thoughts below.