4 Things Kids Should Know Before College


Four of our five children are now in college or working.  Before they left our nest, there were 4 things that Susan and I taught them and always want them to remember. Here they are:

1. Remember who you are—your identity

So many people spend much of their lives trying to determine their identity. They constantly struggle and attempt to create and recreate their identity by how they act, how they look, what they wear, what they drive, where they live, and what they’ve got because they don’t have any idea who they are and how valuable they are.  You don’t have to do that because God has given you your identity and value. You were created and chosen by God. You are wonderfully made.

2. Remember why you are here—your purpose

In my younger years, it was really important to me to get the approval of other people.  For example, when I spoke publicly, I was always thinking things like, “Do they like what I’m saying?  Do they like the way I’m saying it? What do they think about me?”  I was focused on me and was seeking the approval of others. Once I learned to take the focus off me, fear of what other people thought and fear of making mistakes was replaced with freedom to be the person God created me to be.  God does not want us to seek the approval, accolades and applause of others.  He desires for us to look only to the audience of one person for everything, God Almighty…and to do everything to please, glorify and honor Him alone. Your purpose in life is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever.

3. Remember how you should live—your life

God tells us that the most important thing we can do is to love Him and love others.  Jesus also says, “If you love me, you will obey what I command.” (John 14:15).  One of His commands is to read and meditate on His Word. My favorite passage in the Bible is from Psalm 1:1-3 which says, “Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers, but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.” What an encouraging thing! If my delight is in God and His Word, and if I read and meditate on it, God will have His hand of favor on my life in ways I never even dreamed of!

As you continue on your life journey, you will be making more and more decisions that will profoundly influence and impact you for the rest of your life here on earth. The Bible will provide the wisdom you need to make decisions that honor God.

4. Remember what God has promised you—your reward

I can’t wait to get to Heaven!  As I grow older, I think more about it and look forward to the joy we will experience in the presence of God. God loves you and He has plans to prosper you, to give you hope and a future.  God has plans to bless you and richly reward you for what you have done and what you will do for his glory here on earth.

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  • George

    Great list!!!!!

  • Jscheffner

    Thank you for the reminder. It’s good to be reminded of these truths.

  • Mark

    Nothing to add today but thank you. My daughters are 6 and 3, but it is never too early to instill such important things to remember.

    I hope by the time they are ready to venture out, we will be confident enough to let them go, and they will be confident enough to know they can stand on their own, knowing they have our full support and a solid relationship with Our Father.

  • Your are so welcome, J…

  • Mapelt

    I look forward to hearing the family minute every morning and get disappointed when I miss hearing it. I finally took the time today to look at your blog and I am so thankful because now I know I can refer to the family minute on-line. You give listeners great reminders about the important things in life and remind us of their value. Thank you!

  • Rolando O.

    May God always bless you!!

  • Nkechie obiora

    Great teachings, I am thrilled and happy to be associated with Family Minutes.com Thanks for all that you have taught me and my family. God Bless you.

  • Pastor Lew

    What a powerful reminder of what is truly important. Many times parents, fathers in particular, focus on the temporal things of life in terms of raising their children. So much effort goes into getting them on the best travel sports team possible, getting them to lift weights to get stronger for football, getting them prepared to be the best on the team. But many ignore the principles you share here and the result is what we have in the country right now! My sons play baseball, one in college and one in High School. Both will be seniors and I am so thankful because with God’s help they understand what is truly valuable and that this life is temporary! Years ago I read ” Raising a Modern Day Night” written by Robert Lewis. In the book Robert gives a four point definition of manhood. I took those four points and instilled them in my two sons and the outcome has been so rewarding!! We desperately need young men who know what true manhood really is all about!! Thanks Mark!!!

  • Jim Sayers

    This is a great list and a true reminder to all of us. My 21 year old son has turned away from God and professes a belief in no higher power. I pray for him daily to return to God’s teachings through His word. My son is a good person, who is struggling with the need for God, when he feels able to get through life on his own. He is intelligent, well spoken and hard working, but assumes that when life is over, it is simply over. The more I speak to him, the more he pushes away, so I am now letting him know I care, and praying for him daily. It is so hard, I want to send him this list, but right now I feel that a little distance and a lot of prayer may be better.

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