4 R’s of Technology

Do you control technology or does technology control you?

We’ve powered up our laptops, smart phones and video games.  We’ve powered down family meals, drive-time conversations with kids and date nights with our spouse.  We’ve increased tech and decreased touch.  What can we do about it?  Just remember the four R’s.

1.   Recognize that you can control technology.  You choose when and where you turn things off and time together with family on. Make sure that your kids know that technology is not a right; it is a privilege that can be limited or taken away if abused.

2.   Remember that your children will learn more from your online actions than your offline words.  If searching, posting, socializing or commenting online is consuming most of your waking hours, it will be tough to teach your children anything different.  Show them by example when and where they need to power down electronics and power up personal interaction.

3.   Require rules.  Establish boundaries on cell phone talking, texting and tweeting.  For example, texting is off limits at the dinner table.  Facebook can only be used when homework is completed.  Explain to your children the reason behind the rules.

4.   Reinforce rules. People don’t always do what we expect, they do what we inspect.  Monitor what your kids are reading, watching and listening to. Make sure nobody is going out of bounds, including you.

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  • Mark

    One thing we have done with the computer is to move to a room where the family is, as opposed to where it used to be, 2 floors removed from bedrooms and the normal places to hang out (kitchen, dining room, living room). That has accomplished two things, limiting the time spent on the internet, and allowed the whole family to see what is happening on the computer. Our girls are still too young to use the computer or internte on their own, but we are working with them on establishing time limits as well as talking about what is appropriate and what is not.

    Another trick we use on car trips is to turn the radio off. Short trips around town, it isn’t on at all, longer trips, we create a balance. The radio silence has fostered some great conversations, and often the car is louder without it on. There’s something about not having the music on that just gets our girls talking.

    I had left it on a couple of days ago when the girls got in, and took my 6 year old all of about 30 seconds to ask me to turn it off, she had some exciting news she wanted to share.

    On more plea about technology for the dads. Please, when you are out to dinner with your family, turn your bluetooth off and take it out of your ear. Too many times, I’ve seen the pleading looks of children trying to get their dad’s attention. All the while, he’s busy talking shop to a small blinking device in his ear.

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