3 Truths to Remember When You’re Feeling Worthless

feeling worthless

“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” 

When Henry David Thoreau came to this conclusion, I’m afraid he may have gotten it right. So many people are desperate in their marriages and in other relationships. They are suffering in silence with feelings of inadequacy and failure and don’t know what to do about it.

So how do you battle these lies of worthlessness and begin to understand the truth that you are valuable? Here are 3 truths to remember when you’re feeling worthless.

1. You are valuable for who you are, not for what you do. You were created exclusively by God and for God. And because of that, you are valuable. There were no flaws in your design and no errors in your construction. You are hand-made, custom-designed, and fully loaded by God; and because of that, you have immeasurable worth.

2. You have gifts, embrace them. Every person has gifts or strengths. If you don’t know yours, I’d encourage you to ask five family members and friends this question, “In one or two words, what do you think is my single greatest strength?” They’ll all probably give you similar answers. Those answers identifying your area of giftedness will help you understand the truth that you are valuable and have a lot to offer your family and the world.

3. You weren’t meant to do this alone. If you’re constantly putting on a front that you have it all together, other people will start to believe that you really do have it all together. So, I challenge you to be honest with trusted friends and family. Share your struggles with them, and let them help carry your burdens and encourage you. Because the truth is: you were never meant to do this alone.

We all struggle with feelings of worthlessness at one point or another in life. Instead of staying trapped in the mindset of thinking you have nothing to offer, remind yourself of these 3 important truths. If you feel that you’re in a season of struggling right now or if you’d like to encourage someone who is, feel free to leave a comment below.   

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • J

    I feel worthless to the point of being a waste of space.

  • Heartlander

    Thank you so much for this post. I’m going through such a difficult time. Trying to get calmed down enough to try to get some sleep. I googled “feeling desperate any words of comfort” and this was one of the things that came up! God bless you for sharing this with the world. I really needed it!

  • Moejj

    I’m falling apart – inside. Wish. If only God didn’t let me happen/create me. No social life. Have a friend. Better than no friend. Only person I could ever talk to, my beloved Mom long gone. Sure. Jesus knows. Knows the boloney I go through. He cares. I know. Here I sit staring at the ceiling typing into the nowhereville internet. Gee, guess I must be something to come under attack like this, eh? My head feels like it’s been hit by a baseball bat, dizzy, major wave of worthlessness. Ride the wave it’ll all get better until it happens again. Icing on the cake, my beloved Kitty Barney, my little buddy I love so much, is sick, losing weight, not eating, praying like mad he be healed up. Barny and Kaliopae are all have to come home to. I can’t even afford to take my little Buddy to the vet. I have $17 until next Friday before I get paid. I blame myself. Career/wage faultered. Owe a buttload of taxes from years past due to roommates never paying me. Scared witless of the IRS catching up to me. Ah the love of money. No worries there – I hate it. Never have enough. I am a looser. Lost my hair. Missing my front tooth. So easy for anyone to say you have (cough) “gifts” have worth blah blah blah. I was the dimwith holding the door for everyone when self worth was handed out. Rapture or a speeding bus/bullet/train, then the hurt will be gone for good. No more pretending or telling myself I’m somebody to try and convince myself. Thought I would be married have a family have love by now. Nope. Not for this hombre. Guess that’s a blessing I can’t even afford to care for my Kitties. Don’t get me wrong. I am thankful. For a roof over my head. A job. Clothes on my back. Food on my plate. My beloved Kittehs. It could always be even worse, and not have the things I’m so thankful for. I listen to “I feel Invincible” by Skillet and I cry. Piece of work. Someone pray for me? Make the stupid stop? Can say this and *KNOW IT*. No I’ll never do something stupid to myself. Can DEFINITELY feel the Holy Spirit in that department. It’s almost cool & funny at the same time, in that I can feel the this IMMENSE strength that won’t allow it. Would be nice if the same would give me a clue, I feels so insanely stupid.

  • Sezakou .

    I want real companionship, not an invisible friend.

  • Virginia Mariposa Dale

    What you’ve been through is more than a maturing child should have to bear. Just reading your heartfelt story makes me feel like crying because I’m going through similar feelings, but at the advanced age of 74. I think the advice below, of making a day-by-day commitment to doing something, anything, that will make you feel better about yourself, is excellent advice. I’ve written novels and painted. I find that getting out my brushes and just making small improvements to a painting has helped me. I remember the joy I experienced before. I’m at a low spot, experiencing sleeplessness, depression even though I have a few friends. I’ve been an overachiever in many respects and at this advanced age I see many friends getting recognition whereas I’ve had some, I feel full of doubt and anxiety that my life has been extraordinary and I’ve fought the good fight over and over, but what is left for me? One day at a time with small steps forward and a good therapist!

  • you don’t even have to believe in god. just the fact you’re able to survive in the world makes you jolly special. because 98% of people ever born, are dead.