25 Crazy Years of Marriage: What I’m Thankful For


These last 25 years of marriage to Susan have been a crazy, joyful, exciting, wonderful mess.  Leaving my law practice and starting Family First; having three children, then adding two older children from Russia to our family; Susan’s numerous heart surgeries, financial challenges, experiencing our house flood, Susan and me writing books…I could go on and on.

And over the last few years of writing my blog, I’ve shared with you some of the challenges we’ve faced in marriage: from 8 Mistakes I’ve Made in Marriage to Confession: I Expect Too Much from My Wife and The Same Old Marriage Fights and How to Change.   But now, as I reflect on our 25 years together, I’d like to share with you just a few of the countless things I’m thankful for.

  • I’m thankful for how Susan and I were able to get through busy seasons of life and still stay intimately connected. Though there were times when we struggled to stay on the same page in the midst of the craziness of life and raising kids, we worked hard to guard our alone time together and ultimately grew closer because of those tough seasons.
  • Though we are different in a number of ways, I am grateful for how mine and Susan’s qualities have grown to complement one another over time.  I’m a driver, she’s a creator. She’s a designer, I’m a developer. I’m organized, she’s carefree.
  • I am grateful for how supportive my parents and in-laws have been of us and our marriage. They have stayed consistently involved in our lives and our kids’ lives without ever being intrusive or interfering.
  • One unique thing I am thankful for about being married to Susan is being able to witness her passion for motherhood day in and day out.  Not only does she give incredible advice to other moms, but she also sets a great example through her own actions of serving and loving our children well.
  • I am grateful for how Susan stays joined at the hip and heart with our kids and has taught me to do the same. She is a constant companion to our kids by staying involved in their lives.  Susan has truly demonstrated what my daughters should strive to be like one day, and has shown my sons what to look for in a wife.
  • I am ultimately thankful that Susan and I worship our awesome God together.


Now, take a few moments to reflect on what you’re grateful for regarding your own marriage and go share those things with your spouse.  Feel free to also leave a comment below about those things you are thankful for in your marriage. 

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