#133: Is This the Root Cause of Your Marriage Problems? (Podcast)

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What is the opposite of love? If you said hate, well, I hate to disagree with you, but I’m convinced that the opposite of love is really selfishness. And in marriage, selfishness often makes you the worst threat to your marriage and can become the root cause of your marriage problems.

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Discussion Recap

Consider these truths about selfishness

  1. When selfishness has a seat at the dinner table, it always demands to be fed first.
  2. The human heart is naturally bent towards selfishness…it wants what it wants, now.
  3. Selfishness is a root problem. Most major problems at the root of crumbling marriages, even extramarital affairs, are rooted in the rotten core of selfishness.
  4. Selfishness is all about getting, but real love is all about giving.
  5. Selfishness assigns value to a spouse for what they do, but real love grants honor for who a spouse is.
  6. That’s why I believe selfishness is our greatest threat. And it’s living large right under our roof, every day and night.

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