10 Things Husbands Want to Hear from their Wives

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Mark Twain once commented, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” I agree. There is nothing like specific and detailed praise and validation to energize a marriage. After some research here at Family First, we found the 10 things husbands want to hear most from their wives. And if we missed one, please post your idea in the comments section below.

1. “I love being your wife.”

As simple as it sounds, husbands want to know that their wives are content in their marriage and truly enjoy just being with them. When is the last time you thanked your husband for marrying you? Don’t just assume he knows. Tell him!

2. “You’re an outstanding father.”

Deep in the heart of every man is the desire to be seen as a hero—especially to his children. Specifically, tell your husband why he is your kids’ hero. And tonight, at dinner, tell your children why he is so special.

3. “I’m really attracted to you. You are the man!”

It’s a myth that women are always more looks-conscious than men. As guys’ hairlines begin to recede and stomachs start protruding, they can become quite sensitive about their appearance. Never joke about how your husband looks.  Tell him he’s “hot” and how attracted you are to him.

4. “I really respect the decision you made.”

When a man makes a decision, especially a tough one, he doesn’t want his wife being critical of it or questioning him about it. He wants to know that his wife is behind him and admires his ability to make good decisions.

5. “I know how important it is to live within our means. I’m with you on this.”

Your husband is concerned about the future of your family. So that means he is concerned about taking care of his family financially. Having a wife he can rely on to spend and save wisely is a tremendous comfort to him.

6. “I’m so grateful for your spiritual leadership.”

All of us are hardwired for a relationship with God, and many men want to be seen as the spiritual caretakers of their families. Encourage your husband in his faith and for taking his role as a spiritual leader seriously.

7. “You are so wise.”

Many men are born problem solvers and relish the process of thinking through something and arriving at a solution. This, incidentally, is why your husband is always trying to “fix” your problems when all you want him to do is listen.  Recognizing your husband’s mental prowess and complimenting him on his intelligence will pay massive dividends to you. Emphasize to him that you trust his wise judgment.

8. “I appreciate how hard you work to provide for our family.”

There are many things in life that your husband cannot control, but one he can control is effort. It brings him great pleasure to work hard and see the results.  To directly control and be the man responsible for creating something from nothing thrills him. Encourage his great work ethic.

9. “Thank you very much for helping me with that.”

When a man serves his wife, he wants her to recognize it. A simple thank you is all he needs.

10. I’m impressed with how you handled that situation.”

Sometimes a wife will point out when her husband does not handle something well. So when he handles a particularly difficult situation well, let him know.

For the 10 things wives want to hear from their husbands, read this blog.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • justawife

    I agree with this article and I always let my husband have his way because mistakes are the only way to learn and grow. Of course my way is better in the end, and I always end up getting what I want, but my husband didn’t marry me because he needed a nagging mother, he married me because I always have his back no matter what…and I have the patience of a saint.

  • grace

    the only thing that will make you feel loved is knowing the love of Christ. you won’t earn love from your husband whatever you do. Love is a choice, he will either choose to love you or not , same thing for you, you will choose to love him or not and if you choose love you have to do it not expecting something from him. and when you feel you want to be loved, turn to jesus and also when you feel you no longer want to love him also turn to jesus to fill you up.

  • Charmaine Piquette

    So untrue. It’s simply self respect and wanting the best for your husband.
    I’ve been where you are. We should talk.

  • Michele

    I understand what youre saying. I found that when I stopped saying these things just to say them and expecting to get something in return is when I think he started believing me….the heart really makes the difference…at least it did for me. Hope this helps.

  • Glenda R Huntoon

    I see people over reacting a bit here. This is only a one slice of a whole pie. Yes when our husbands make a bad choice, there needs to be accountability. But that accountability should be approached in respect. My husband and I have vowed to always and in all things approach each other with love and respect, even when holding each other accountable for a mistake or bad choice. This article is not saying that we should be subservient. It is just saying to take some time to speak life and love to your husband and don’t camp out on the negative. Ladies, it is ok to set aside a time to talk with your husband about your meeds as well. Do not wait until you are angry with him and yelling at him that you need him to tell you he loves you. He is not going to feel that love while you are yelling at him. But if you sitting quietly having dinner and you say to him ” Honey, I have not heard you say I love you in a long time and you have seemed very busy and distant. I miss “interject an example of something he use to do that you now miss. ” give him complete information. He can’t read your mind. If there is no other underlying problem, he will appreciate that you have noticed he is busy and that you desire to be more interactive with him. Do not be demanding about it, but offer ways to resolve both of your stress, so that the two of you can enjoy some intimate time together building each other and your relationship.

  • Spellingmatters

    Are you 9 years old? Or are you just dumber than a bag of wet hair?

  • Ryan

    From the heart. Exactly. Isn’t that what unconditional love is?

  • PG

    That should be titled “10 ways to appeal to a man’s ego” as a guy all I wan’t to hear is the truth about how my wife feels about me. If she doesn’t feel I’ve made the correct decision or I’m not being a good spiritual leader I’d rather know as I’m not perfect and sometimes other people see these things more clearly. That’s the beauty of marriage. Communication is the most important thing even more so than encouragement.

  • leahchristensen

    So good to hear from a REAL man, and not just some egotistical guy looking for a Stepford wife.

  • D Beaver

    Just heard a sermon on honoring others in humility. To me it is about considering others worth my effort and demonstrating that you value the. 1 peter 3:7 when a husband does this it keeps his prayers from being hindered. I love these suggestions really for me I use them for someone else when bad seeps in I try to fight it with good. I think if encouragement is one if the spiritual gifts. In greatful to God for this great resource