Feeling Overwhelmed? Why Solitude and Silence Are So Important

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What if I asked you, “So, what have you been doing?” And you respond by saying, “Oh, nothing at all. I really wish I had something to do.” Of course, no one would respond that way. Instead, you’d probably say something like “I’m really overwhelmed right now. It’s crazy. I’m so busy.”  If so, you’re not alone. I can’t recall a time recently when I’ve spoken with someone who didn’t tell me how busy they were with work, with kids, or with life.

Well, if we aren’t careful, constant busyness will ultimately lead us to a searing desert where joy evaporates and emptiness fills our lives and relationships. But solitude and silence are an oasis where Living Water will refresh the scorched soul and renew the muddied mind.

At least once a year, I retreat to an “oasis” for reflection, refreshment, and renewal. I find a place somewhere outside of our home where I can spend the day alone, just me and God, without any connection to the outside world. In the past, I’ve gone to places like a secluded beach, a quiet park, or a friend’s condo. I sometimes bring some uplifting music. I often bring a pen and pad of paper to jot down what I’m learning. And I always bring my Bible which pours Living Water into my soul.

From my experience, solitude and silence can do at least 5 things.

1. Solitude and silence can make you feel helpless.

When you’re alone and not “doing,” you start thinking about how little control you ultimately have, and ever had, over just about everything that’s important—your spouse, your kids, your work. Now, I’m not suggesting that we can’t control how we behave—the way we treat our spouse, how we raise our kids, or how we lead at work. I’m just saying that I can’t ultimately control the outcome or results. We can’t control someone else’s heart and mind, and we can’t control all of our circumstances. Only God can do that.

2. Solitude and silence can force you to address issues you’d rather avoid.

When you stop and think, the root cause of your horrific marriage problems might become clearer. A retreat can also give you time to grieve a great loss—the loss of your parents, your child, your friend.

3. Solitude and silence can help you reflect upon your life.

The purpose here is not to dwell on your mistakes that have been forgiven.  The reason for this time is for you to think about, with true humility, any changes that need to be made in your life, not someone else’s, from this day forward.

4. Solitude and silence can allow you to do some deep thinking and help focus your mind and heart on what’s truly important.

Loving God and loving others—your spouse, your children, your family, your friends, your enemies—should be at the very top of your list of what really matters.

5. Solitude and silence can be the wellspring of hope in your life.

I’m not suggesting every time you spend this time alone that your life will drastically change. But I am saying that this time can restore, renew, and re-energize you toward a life of meaning and purpose.

 

Do you spend any time in solitude and silence? If so, what has been your experience?

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Margo

    As a single mom of two, working full time plus some part-time jobs, it’s not easy to find an entire free day to retreat, reflect, refresh, and refocus; but, I make sure every day to have, late at night or very early in the morning when everybody is sleeping, a time of just my Bible, God and I. It feels better and relaxes me more than soaking in a nice hot tub of bubbles! And it helps me keep myself focus on the main things.

  • susan saxer

    That is what I strive to do every Sunday. It is our day of rest to enjoy and do nothing more then we have to. I go to church and let every thing go. If you start to do this you will either find out what you thought you had to do on Sunday will get done another day of the week or it was not that important anyway. God gave us Sunday as a day of rest-enjoy it alone or with your love one’s he knows we needed it.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Susan, that’s great that you focus on the Sabbath. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Margo, it’s so much better to soak up Living Water! You’re right.

  • Jennifer Estep

    I’m a single mom on disability having a very hard time making it. In Feb I lost my loving mother and having to see her die in hospice was very hard on my Lille family…its my father me and my son. I’ve been very silent I have friends who tell me to stop crying… I don’t listen…family time meant the world to my mother. I go outside watch sun sets that God has blessed us with have my bible and think of my mother..life is soo hard but I’m trying my best….God bless you. And thank you.

  • Jasongall321

    I go down to the river start a fire throw out some catfishing poles and just sit, relax, and enjoy nature, and try to free my mind. I could care less about catching a fish when I go fishing, but it helps make it more enjoyable for sure.