Trust is the essential ingredient in any good relationship. The people you feel closest to are the ones you trust the most, and vice versa. When you feel you can no longer rely on someone, that person will likely move to the periphery of your emotional and thought life. The thing that makes one spouse cheating on another so devastating is that the person you ought to be able to trust the most has now become someone you severely distrust. You feel rejected, used and maybe even physically dirty. The fear of contracting a sexually transmitted disease may even cross your mind.
In light of this overwhelming emotional war going on in your mind and heart, is divorce inevitable? Not necessarily. Take a few minutes to watch the powerful story of the Scruggs as they overcame adultery and now their marriage has never been better.
I can’t tell you what you should do if the adultery landmine has exploded in your home. Just know that couples can work through the pain with the help of a good counselor or pastor, if they choose. It will take years to heal wounds and earn back trust, but it can be done.
If you have been cheated on but have been able to experience reconciliation with your spouse, please leave me a comment below and let me know how you did it.