5 Things Your Child Needs You to Be


Being a parent is the best job in the world.  We get to train, inspire, and watch our children grow. Yet, at the same time, parenting can be somewhat complicated given the many hats that we must wear. Here are 5 different roles our children need us to play.

1. Protector.  Sure, we need to always protect our kids from physical harm. But we need to guard their hearts as well—guard their hearts from unhealthy relationships, from the negative influence of friends, and from inappropriate media.

2. Disciplinarian.  As much as kids complain about having rules to follow, they would be lost without them.  It’s important to create boundaries for your kids. Having no rules and consequences would leave all decision-making up to them—something they are neither wanting nor equipped to do.  Instead, parents should be the ones setting up boundaries and then following through with discipline when those lines are crossed.

3. Advisor.  There will be situations where your children are not sure what to do, especially as they get older.  And with so many different voices telling them what to do, your voice needs to be loudest of all. As I advise my children, I remind them that I will always speak the truth to them and will always have their best interests at heart. Because of that, they know that they can count on what I tell them.

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4. Confidant.  We all need someone to confide in—someone to share our thoughts and feelings with.  Don’t make your child go searching for that in friends or romantic relationships. Be that safe, trustworthy, confidant for your child. For your child to see you as their confidant, they’ll need to see you as someone who will identify, empathize, and listen to them, not someone who seems distant, unsympathetic, and who lectures often.

5. Encourager. Be your children’s number one encourager. Encourage them with genuine compliments about their character and inner beauty. Uplift them with short notes and letters.

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What are some other roles parents should take on for their kids?  Please leave your thoughts in a comment below.  


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  • 6. Challenger. Every person is challenged, but who is the challenger? If we as parents do not challenge our children, they will seek it elsewhere. The challenges could come from friends, peers, or media, but no matter the situation, every person is challenged.

    We have the opportunity as parents to push our children to be their best. Don’t leave it in the hands of society. We must embrace challenging our children. A healthy dose of parental challenge, leads to hard work, perseverance, and achievement. We must prepare our future adults to be empowered by challenges, not cower away from challenges.

    Mark, thank you for the post. I especially liked #4 – Confidant. Trust, our children need to be able to authentically rely on us for wisdom, love, challenge, and encouragement.

  • Jared, you are welcome. Thanks for sharing your insight too.

  • Denise Taylor Daughtry

    The greatest teacher a child have starts at home with their parents. They mimic us. Charity begins at home,and that is love. Love is long suffering and is kind. Love does not seek their own way. Love believe in your child, bear the mishaps and mistakes your child will make. To err is human and to forgive is divine.

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  • ? Steven Burda, MBA

    Well said.

  • Doug

    Great article! One that struck a cord with me is how hard it’s becoming to protect kids from media. When “family shows” such as “Americas Got Talent” are interrupted with Viagra commercials , use words kids can’t at home or in school, it’s difficult to balance acceptance of modern society that violate any rule good parents and teachers expect of our children. While I get the fine lines of censorship, it’s sure hard to explain where kids get some if the words they use ( to teachers ) even when we are protecting against media. Would love an article of advice on this very topic: how to parental lock Windows 8, specific age group games on Nick for kids and the Cartoon Network webpages, how to address inappropriate language within family shows and commercials to the media ( and have that talk with our kids,) etc..,

  • EJHamatake

    Is “America’s Got Talent” on Youtube? That’s one way to avoid unsavory commercials.