Posted on: October 11, 2012

How to Show Your Husband Respect

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  It’s something your husband really craves. You might say, “He doesn’t deserve it.” Or, “He will have to earn it.” But showing your husband respect should not come with any conditions.

So, how do you show your husband respect? Here are 5 ways:

1. Show your appreciation.  Thank him for protecting and providing for your family.  Thank him for being a good and faithful husband.  Thank him for taking out the garbage.  Nothing is too small for a thank you.

2. Honor your husband.  Honor him at home by the way you treat him.  Speak to him without a “tone.”  Honor him by not using him as a punch line when you are out with your girlfriends.  Compliment him in front of his friends and your children.  Find ways to sing his praises.

3. Encourage him.  Be supportive of his career path.  It is important to your husband to feel like he is successful in your eyes.  Listen to his dreams.  Talk about how you can accomplish them together.  Encouragement can breathe life into him.

4. Include him.  When it comes to parenting, ask his opinion before making a final decision.  When you struggle with something at work or at home, talk it out with him.  Ask for his insight.  Everyone wants to be needed.

5. Be intimate with him.  Men need physical intimacy to feel fulfilled in their marriage.  If your husband doesn’t feel desired, it will create a distance between you.  Show him that he is wanted.

 

In what ways do you show respect to your husband?  What affect does it have on your marriage?  Share your comments with me.

  • Guest

    This is wonderful stuff. The best book my husband and I ever read is Love and Respect. It hits home with both of us. Unfortunetly my husband was in a 12 year marriage prior, where he didnt receive any uncontiondal respect or respect period. His past wife was the person who wore and enjoyed to wear the pants in the family, which ultimately led to their end.  Its a long road to get him to see that God created him just perfect in His eyes and its ok to let him lead, be in charge and have a 51/49% partnership.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Guest, thanks so much for sharing and for your kind words.

  • Ejramlow

    I’m reading and doing the Respect Dare…excellent read and prayerful reflection.

  • Dixieleefelici

    Would you please share the author of Love and Respect?  Sounds like a book for many of us who desire a loving and respectful marriage.
    Thank you,
    Dixie

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Dixie, Emerson Eggerichs is the author of ‘Love and Respect.” It’s a fantastic book, and I hope you’ll read it!

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    All, another good book is called The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick.

  • L WHITE

    Add to the list of great books, “The Five Love Languages” .  I can’t remember the author but it has a purple cover.  Be sure to get the one for married couples, there are others for children. 

  • Hphilpot

    I concur about “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs…best marriage book I have read

  • sherley

    I respect My husband, I include him in everything,I am intimate with him all the time especially when I come back from work…I compliment hime an I show him appreciation everday, I make tea for him everday when he is back from work…. I listen to him but just this other day we were talking and he borrowed me his phone ( old phone) he was never using the phone, because my phone broke and the speaker was not working. I never asked him to give me the phone, but he did and I just asked him to delete all his SMS on the massage box and he did but forgot to ask him to delete contact list. well the next day I had to remind him to and you know he then aske me to delet but I didný want to because I never new whether there are some important numbers that he still want to use, well I tell you I then started deleteing the numbers on by one because I could not Mark all then delete as there were some of my numbers on the phone already, then I was just laghing because some of the names looked funny and we awere both laughing about it and the next thing he was all upset… saying I don’t listen to him, I disrectect him, because he had asked me to delete all numbers, I was surprised by the change and then kept quite and deleted all numbers without a word… Now I don’t know what is it that I am not doing right, he said in his state ment I am not respecting him because when he talk I don’t do what he says. why does he have to reapets himself over and over again. I disrespect him for talking back at him , I should keep quiet and not talk when he is talking. He is the Man in this house and I should be obeying him and not talk back to him, I was confuse because now I did not know when to respond and when not to respond back to him. Can someone help me I need to know what can I do… to me it sounds stupid and I don’t think it that BIG deal but he feel all that there is no respect from me to him. PLEASE HELP!!