Posted on: October 2, 2012

How to Be Your Husband’s Girlfriend

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So, you’ve been married a few years. You’ve settled into a routine…or maybe you’d call it a rut. It may be time to bring back that girl your husband once knew and adored. Now, I’m not suggesting you wind back the clock. But I am suggesting that you bring that spark back into your marriage by being your husband’s girlfriend again.

Here are some ways to do just that:

1. Remember what attracted your husband to you, and do it!  Watch sports with him.  Make him a special dinner.  Take time to do the things you did when you won his heart, and he won yours.

2. Be excited to see him.  When you were dating, you were happy just to be in the same room with him.  Now, you pass in the hall without even a glance.  Stop and give him an unexpected kiss.  Step away from the kids to give him a hug.  Say, “I love you” before you go to sleep.

3. Surprise him.  Text him in the middle of the day for no reason.  Put a love note in his briefcase.  Pick him up at work and take him to his favorite restaurant for dinner.

4. Let him be the man.  Give him a chance to be your hero again.  Whether he wants to fix the sink, solve a problem, or take you on a date, let him.  No questions asked.  Keep the pursuit alive.

5. Sing his praises.  When you first met your husband, you thought he was the best at everything.  Don’t let him forget that.  Praise him as a great husband and dad in front of your children.  Compliment his ability to fix the car or do your taxes in front of your friends.  Thank him for being a great protector and provider.

 

How do you act like your husband’s girlfriend?  Please share your thoughts with me.

  • Charla

    After 27 years, we still hold hands wherever we go. Sometimes I pack lunch for him with cute little notes inside. And I love it when we’re together; somehow, that hasn’t faded after all these years. I show him the same courtesy & appreciation for the things he does that I did before we got married. And I know things could change in a moment; so I don’t take a good husband for granted.

  • Melanie Robbins

    As always so appreciate your articles/words of wisdom!

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Wow! Charla, that is great. And, I like your thought of never taking a good husband for granted.

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Melanie, so kind of you to say. 

  • Kim

    We’ve been married 13 1/2 years and a year or so ago I had a shirt made that says, “Mike’s Girl”.  He LOVES it and I try to remember to wear it often.

  • Christina Peverill

    Beautifully written and simple to follow advice. Even as a divorced and dating Mom, it is always important to remember to appreciate your significant other and make sure they know it too! Posted to FB and shared with my married friends who can use the reminder… 

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Way to go, Kim!

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Christina, kind of you to share with your friends. 

  • amy

    Spontanaity. When he’s home for lunch and the kids are in school surprise him. 

  • http://www.MarkMerrill.com/ Mark Merrill

    Thanks for your idea, Amy.

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  • lesliedc

     Same here.  Thank you Mark and may God continue to bless you.